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Research Insight
Studies show that approximately 50% of people have secure attachment, while the oth-
er 50% have various forms of insecure attachment. This means if you’re struggling with
attachment issues, you’re in good company—about half the population is navigating sim-
ilar challenges. Your attachment style isn’t permanent, and research consistently demon-
strates that people can develop more secure attachment patterns through awareness and
intentional practice.
WHY THIS WORKBOOK IS DIFFERENT
Let’s be honest—you’ve probably read other books on attachment. Maybe you’ve highlighted passages in
Attached. Maybe you’ve screenshotted attachment infographics on Instagram. Maybe you’ve even tried
to explain your anxious-preoccupied tendencies to your date over happy hour cocktails (which, pro tip:
maybe save for date five).
The problem is, most attachment resources do a great job of explaining why you’re like this, but a pretty
terrible job of telling you what to actually do about it. Especially in the messy reality of modern dating,
where a read receipt can send you spiraling and “hey” can mean anything from “I’m bored” to “I’m think-
ing about our future children.”
Here’s what makes this workbook different:
1 No fluff, just tools.
You’ll get enough theory to understand what’s happening, but most of this book is dedicated to
practical exercises, scripts, and tools you can use right now.
2 All the attachment styles, not just one.
Most resources focus on either anxious or avoidant attachment. A few mention disorganized at-
tachment as a footnote. This workbook addresses all three insecure styles in detail.
3 Modern dating focus.
We’re dealing with dating in 2025, not 1995. This workbook tackles how attachment plays out in
dating apps, text conversations, social media, and the general hellscape of modern connection.
4 No toxic positivity.
I won’t tell you to “just love yourself” or “just be confident.” Healing attachment patterns is hard
work. I respect that, and this workbook does too.
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