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ATTACHMENT AUDIT

A Quick Quiz to Spot Your Style

To know thyself is the beginning of wisdom.

— Socrates

Before we dive into the deeper work, let’s figure out where you’re starting from. This isn’t some BuzzFeed
“Which Disney Princess Are You?” quiz (though honestly, I’d be Moana with Elsa tendencies). This is
about understanding the patterns that have been running your relationships behind the scenes.
Quick disclaimer: No quiz can capture the full complexity of your attachment history. We’re all messy
humans with layers and contradictions. You might see yourself in multiple answers, and that’s completely
normal. Just go with whatever resonates most deeply, even if it’s uncomfortable to admit.
For each question, choose the response that feels most like your typical pattern in romantic relationships.
Not what you wish you did. Not what you think is healthiest. What you actually do, especially when you’re
stressed, triggered, or feeling insecure.

Ready? Let’s get into it.

THE QUIZ

1 When someone you’re dating doesn’t text back for several hours, you
typically:

A. Feel increasing anxiety, check your phone constantly, and start wondering what you did
wrong or if they’re losing interest.
B. Barely notice or feel relieved for the space. You might even forget to respond when they do
text back.
C. Switch between extreme worry that they’re abandoning you and anger that makes you
want to ignore them when they do respond.

D. Notice their absence but continue with your day, assuming they’re busy and will respond
when they can.

Answer: ......................................................................................................................

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