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C. Intensely pursuing someone and then suddenly getting the ick, or ghosting when they
show too much interest, only to regret it later.
D. Having balanced conversations, being clear about your interest, and not taking it person-
ally when matches don’t work out.
Answer: ......................................................................................................................
6 When things start getting serious with someone, you usually:
A. Feel excited but anxious, looking for constant reassurance that they’re as invested as you
are.
B. Start feeling trapped or noticing flaws you hadn’t seen before, questioning if this is really
what you want.
C. Swing between intense excitement and sudden panic, perhaps creating tests or drama to
see if they’ll stick around.
D. Feel a natural progression of deepening feelings, with normal moments of uncertainty that
don’t derail things.
Answer: ......................................................................................................................
7 Your friends would describe your relationship history as:
A. “You tend to worry too much about what your partners think and sometimes lose yourself
in relationships.”
B. “You’re really independent and sometimes we wonder if you actually want a relationship.”
C. “Your relationships are... intense. The highs are high and the lows are low.”
D. “Your relationships generally seem healthy, even the ones that didn’t work out.”
Answer: ......................................................................................................................
8 When someone expresses strong feelings for you:
A. It feels validating and reassuring—you need to know they’re invested.
B. It often feels overwhelming or puts pressure on you, making you want to create some
distance.
C. Part of you craves this intensity while another part distrusts it or wants to sabotage it.
D. You appreciate their honesty and respond authentically, whether or not you feel the same
way.
Answer: ......................................................................................................................
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