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2 In relationships, your biggest fear is:
A. Being abandoned, rejected, or not being enough for your partner.
B. Being controlled, suffocated, or losing your independence.
C. Both being abandoned and being controlled—it feels like you can’t win either way.
D. Normal relationship challenges like communication issues or growing apart over time.
Answer: ......................................................................................................................
3 When conflict arises in a relationship, you tend to:
A. Try to resolve it immediately, even if that means apologizing when you’ve done nothing
wrong, just to restore harmony.
B. Withdraw, need space, or intellectualize the problem rather than dealing with the emo-
tions involved.
C. Either explode with emotion or completely shut down—your reaction might seem dispro-
portionate to the actual issue.
D. Address the issue directly but calmly, focusing on understanding each other’s perspec-
tives.
Answer: ......................................................................................................................
4 When it comes to emotional intimacy, you:
A. Crave deep connection and often want more closeness than your partners do.
B. Value your emotional independence and often feel uncomfortable when partners want to
“process feelings” too much.
C. Desperately want closeness but feel terrified by it at the same time, creating a push-pull
dynamic.
D. Enjoy emotional intimacy while also being comfortable with appropriate boundaries.
Answer: ......................................................................................................................
5 Your dating app behavior could best be described as:
A. Getting attached quickly to promising matches, feeling disappointed when conversations
fizzle, and sometimes double-texting when they go quiet.
B. Maintaining several conversations but often losing interest once people start getting too
eager or want to meet too quickly.
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