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SCORING YOUR QUIZ

Count how many of each letter you selected:

Mostly A’s Mostly B’s Mostly C’s Mostly D’s
Anxious Avoidant Disorganized Secure Attachment
Attachment Attachment Attachment (or Secure-ish)
(Fearful Avoidant)

You tend to worry You value indepen- You experience a You generally feel
about your part- dence and self-suf- push-pull pattern in comfortable with
ner’s availability, ficiency. Intimacy relationships, crav- intimacy and inde-
love, and attention. can feel uncomfort- ing closeness but pendence. You can
Relationships are able at times, and also fearing it. Your form close bonds
central to your life, you need significant responses can seem without losing your
and you’re quick personal space. You contradictory— sense of self, and
to notice any shifts might find yourself deeply desiring love you communicate
in emotional con- pulling away when while also pushing your needs relative-
nection. You give a relationships get too it away. This style ly clearly. Even if
lot and sometimes close or emotionally often develops from this isn’t your natu-
don’t get the same demanding. more complex early ral style, it suggests
in return. experiences. you’ve done healing
work.

Mixed Results? If you have a relatively even mix of letters, you might:

► Be in transition between attachment styles (that’s good news!)
► Adapt your style based on who you’re with

► Have different attachment styles in different types of relationships
► Be operating from a “Secure-ish” place some of the time

WHAT YOUR RESULTS MEAN (AND DON’T MEAN)

First things first: Your attachment style is not a verdict on your worthiness for love. It’s not a diagnosis
or a life sentence. It’s a pattern—a set of adaptive strategies you developed to get your needs met in rela-
tionships.

These patterns made perfect sense based on your early experiences. They were brilliant survival mecha-
nisms. But they might be causing you pain now in your adult relationships.

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